BE Where you ARE.... Otherwise you will MISS your life!

  

On this first day of 2013 I would like to share with you a little tradition that has developed in our home that has made a huge difference in my life and had an even bigger impact on my relationship with my life mate...

It’s kinda become a tradition in our home that on the morning of the last day of the year my partner and I curl up on the couch with a cup of coffee each and spend an hour reflecting upon the past year.  We review all our accomplishments, remember the good times, and then move on.  Sometimes we are in perfect sync and agree and laugh and enjoy the memories and sometimes not so much (grin) and we disagree and end up arguing like every other couple out there (Bigger grin) but we always make up by New Year’s Day morning when we sit down together to negotiate (yes, NEGOTIATE!) our list of priorities for the coming 12 months.   We NEVER make resolutions, we just jot down a list of five things we would like to accomplish inside the house and five more outside the house and number them from most important to “if we can get to it” and then we each list one thing we are going to work on in our relationship and that’s it.

It has been a pattern that we developed one New Year’s weekend when we were going through a bumpy patch and it stuck… it has been amazingly effective because it does not need to be revisited through the year But it has allowed us to start every year on the same page with a basic plan for the direction we would LIKE to head out.   

And I am always surprised by how much we actually get done on our list without very much effort and WAY LESS arguing!  Life happens, priorities change, but you know I have found that it is a lot easier to negotiate the detours on your life path when you actually HAVE a path. 

 Happy New Year to everyone!